Wedding Planning With Me: How to Plan Your Wedding With Intention | By Randi Fracassi
We all want a beautiful wedding. A day where all the details reflect you and your style, that tells a story. You want a day that has your guests experiencing the best night of your life with you. The trick, though, is in knowing how to have that kind of intentionality in wedding planning, while still making sure that the day truly does reflect you.
Don’t Watch the Clock
One of the first things that can help as you begin to plan is not to put a timer on yourself. The time crunch will come later, I promise! But try to relish in this season, and allow yourself to enjoy being engaged. Enjoy the wedding planning process itself! Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither will your wedding be. Having the patience to look at all of your options, build your budget, create your guest list, and to find the perfect pieces to make it all come together will allow your decisions to be more thought-out, and ultimately ensure that you get exactly what you’re looking for. It also ensures that you’re not compromising on anything relating to your big day!
Pick a venue that speaks you both of you
This might mean making your way across the state, or video-chatting with vendors from across the country, even. But your wedding venue sets the foundation of the rest of the aesthetic for your day! Though it can be very easy to get caught up in the glamour and the style of a venue, you also need to keep in mind the setting, and the realistic size of your wedding.
That is–having a small, intimate wedding in a hall that is designed to hold 300 will more than likely not be ideal. Nor would choosing a space that has many small rooms, versus a more open space if you’re looking to create a bright and airy environment.
Choosing your venue with the intention of celebrating you both, and telling your story is absolutely key to ensure that your wedding reflects you as a couple.
Price isn’t everything
Other than your venue, don’t pick vendors based solely on their prices. Now, I am not saying that you should completely plan your wedding without thought to cost! What I am saying is that just because a vendor may be less expensive (or even free) compared to another, keep in mind the experience you want to have. Consider whether or not you are getting the most out of your experience for your investment.
Like your venue, your vendors help set the tone of your wedding, and are a reflection of you. In regards to vendors that you receive
tangible goods from (apparel, photographers, baker, videographers, catering, paper goods), be especially aware that the products that these vendors produce are what you’ll have to remember from your wedding. These goods need to have the most care in their selection.
Surround yourself with supportive people
While you may now have the perfect setting and team on your side, be sure to also take into consideration your wedding party. And don’t forget the guest list itself! It goes without saying that you want your wedding to be the very best of days. You want to be able to celebrate without worry of offending, hurting, or being otherwise involved in drama.
With that in mind, surround yourself with a group of men and women who support you. People who will hold you accountable, and who genuinely cherish your friendship. Sure, you more than likely will need to include friends of your parents, plus ones, or others you may not personally know. Politeness and etiquette have their place on a wedding day, after all! But, taking meticulous care to invite those friends and family who will contribute support to your wedding day will create the positive atmosphere that you need.
Focus on the end goal
Finally, and most importantly, remember what you really have at the end of it all. Once you say goodbye, the venue is cleaned up, and you’re left standing there together, you are married. You’ve made a commitment to another person, another soul. Throughout the planning process and the season of engagement in your lives, it should be at the forefront of your mind that this is what matters most.
Marriage is what truly matters and what is being celebrated, and this party isn’t just for show. At this time in your life, take care to go through premarital or couples counseling in preparation for your marriage. Make sure that discuss those deep down, core value questions (if you haven’t already).
I hope that these tips will help you as you plan your wedding with intention. Whether your vision is to make sure that your day is stylish and trendy or more heartfelt and personal, these suggestions will surely help you make the most out of your wedding planning experience!
This is the second in Randi’s series on wedding planning tips. Head on over to Poppy Lane Events to check out her stunning work, and CLICK HERE to read the first in her series, if you haven’t caught it yet!